Maybe you have a critical parent, a parter or friend who feels its easier to pull things apart, rather than support you and your choices. First of all, there’s no greater satisfaction than proving someone wrong. So keep that in mind, and use their criticism and doubt as fire to fuel your motivation. No matter how spiritually advanced you may think you are, love and light only goes so far when you feel someone is unable to support you by being in your corner. Whether it’s that this person is criticising your relationship, your life choices or your perceived success, it’s important that you don’t get discouraged.
Instead take action.
You can start by closing your eyes for a short mediation exercise. As you relax, imagine a cord running between you and the negative person. Take note of the colour and thickness of the cord, as well as where from your body it connects you to the other person. Now visualise ourself, cutting this energetic cord and saying good bye to the influence of this person on your life, and your energy.
Next, sit down and carve out an action plan. How can you prove this negative person wrong once and for all? And more importantly, reach your own goals. The best way to create goals and vision is to think of the core values that these goals represent, and how you will feel by achieving each goal. So for example, if you want to buy a home, the core values around this may be feeling safe, having a sense of belonging, and a space to host your family and friends. Are there any limiting beliefs holding you back from reaching this goal? Subconscious beliefs from our childhood can create self imposed beliefs as to what you believe is possible for you. Exploring exactly what these beliefs are, seeing their irrationality and dissolving them, will go a long way to motivating you and setting you on your path.
Now make a timeline with action steps. The exact timing doesn’t need to be detailed, but what will help you is charting how and when you will reach your goal, broken out into steps. Steps help the goal to seem less intimidating, and manageable. According to Vividly describing your goals in written form is strongly associated with goal success, and people who very vividly describe or picture their goals are anywhere from 1.2 to 1.4 times more likely to successfully accomplish their goals than people who don’t. A Harvard Business Study found that the 3% of graduates from their MBA who had their goals written down, ended up earning ten times as much as the other 97% put together, just ten years after graduation.
So now that you have ignored your critics, done the meditation exercise of cutting energetic cords connected to them, and writing down your goals, you are all set.
Last but not least, always remember this piece of advice, “you will never be criticised by someone who is doing more than you.” Read that again.